About the author

Hi, I am Alexandra, an integrative psychotherapist from Leuven. You can read more about my therapeutic background here. 

In my practice, I devote much attention to training my clients to recognize, understand, and regulate their emotions, especially anger.

Many of us learned that anger is a “bad” or “negative” emotion, that it is unacceptable to feel angry, it is unsafe or impolite. We get ashamed of anger; we try to avoid or ignore it until we explode aggressively.

But anger is different from aggression. Anger is just a feeling that poses no threat to us or others. Anger brings focus, protection, and care. 

Pure anger about something is often connected to caring deeply about it. And caring deeply about something gives us meaning and direction. Isn’t that beautiful?

I know it is annoying when anger becomes aggression. After an angry outburst, you might feel guilty, ashamed, sleepy, and indifferent. You might blame yourself for not trying hard enough. 

I believe people can learn to control  regulate their anger and use their anger in a non-violent way when they are offered a gift of co-regulation. Co-regulation means “regulating together.” 

I believe that co-regulation is efficient when it happens often. That is why I developed conversation technique ADORE to bring co-regulation to you and your family. 

With ADORE: OVERCOMING ANGER, parents can offer co-regulation to their children, and partners can co-regulate each other.

I understand learning a new way of communication can be challenging since our cultural norms do not teach us co-regulation. 

When you choose to master ADORE, I support you along the journey with my tips, instructions, exercises, and online trainings. Feel free to contact me if you have any questions.

Feel anger, care deeply, stay friendly ♥

~ Alexandra